The Key to Purify Ourselves from Outside Contaminations, Part 4 of 10, Jul. 5, 1997, Los Angeles, CA, USA

For example, if you have a problem with your wife, the only one you should talk to is your wife because it concerns both of you. […] Because it’s mostly not fair to talk about anybody behind his or her back, whether it’s true or not true. Most of the negative things are not true. Even if you believe it was true at that time, after a while, you spoke about it and you think about it, you find out it’s not true. It’s not the real cause and it’s not the real opinion. And then if you already spoke to somebody else, saying bad things about somebody, then it will be difficult to take it back. You already blackened the person’s name, or blemished his reputation. And then we feel sorry and then we break the friendship. Also, sometimes very unnecessarily. It’s better to just keep it to ourselves. Because a lot of times we misunderstand. […]

It’s the mind that tricks us. You know why? Because sometimes we encountered that situation before and it happened like that, like that. And the next time we encounter the same situation but in a different background or with a different person. But because we have experienced a similar situation before, and we judge this situation, this person, exactly the same. So, it’s never correct; most of the time it’s not correct. And it’s an incorrect thing already, and we talk again to another person, make it double incorrect and very difficult to correct it later. […]

Do you talk a lot about problems here? Better not, better not. Because this is a public place, really. We don’t have the right to bring garbage, poison, and spread it around here. People come here for refuge. This is owned by everybody, and they come here to feel peaceful, to feel tranquil. So, it is not a place for talking about negative things. […]

Sometimes we lose something, even a husband or wife or lover, and we think it’s bad, and we blame God or whatever, for taking away our spouse, and causing upheaval in our life. But actually, sometimes it’s good for us. Later we know is good. We just enjoy what comes; it would be best. […] If you still love that person, then always try your best, to talk with each other, to make it understood between each other, because maybe it’s a misunderstanding. […]